Assalaamu ‘Alaykum to all my lovely sisters.
I’m Zahra Osman aka Umm Asmaa, and I’m on a mission to raise the bar from mediocrity to excellence for myself and fellow Muslim mommies. Through Umm Empowered, I hope to empower myself and others like me to live righteous and productive lives whose impact will last long after we’re gone. Too often we moms get so consumed in motherhood that we give up on any ambitions or dreams we may have. We really need to stop using motherhood as an excuse for why we aren’t excelling in x,y, or, z. In fact, motherhood should be the reason to score 11 on a 10-point scale of absolute awesomeness. A criteria for raising the next leaders of the ummah!
There’s an advice that’s become a bit of a cliche and is probably the number one advice passed around at bridal showers. I’m sure you’ve heard it when you were single and most likely repeat it after marriage or kids.
Take advantage of your time before marriage and kids.
Some like to elaborate:
Yeah, because once you have kids, you have no life!
I get that I have a new plate of responsibilities, but its no death sentence! Having children doesn’t paralyze you. It just shifts your priorities and forces you to value time more. Well, it should anyway.
Nevertheless, this advice always rung in my head and I always hoped I would achieve two major goals, memorizing the Quran and learning Arabic, before having children. So when I got married, I sort of started panicking. Then I got pregnant and thought, khalas, the death verdict had been issued. It didn’t help that moms would complain about their iman (faith) decreasing because of not having time for spiritual development. Or the laughs at my naivety for being ambitious in pursuing goals with children. But then I started thinking about the moms I knew who were scholars, entrepreneurs, philanthropists, students, innovative home schoolers, and community leaders. Surely, if they could lead productive lives as mothers, then my pursuit to spiritual and worldly excellence doesn’t have to stop in the labour room. So I knew, the calls for a “reality check” had no basis. And I must admit that I memorized more Quran in the first seven months of my daughter’s life than I had in the 7 years prior to that. Ponder this hadith:
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If the Resurrection were established upon one of you while he has in his hand a sapling, then let him plant it.” [Musnad Ahmad]
This hadith makes it clear that, despite the circumstance, if there is beneficial work that needs to be done, then you should do it. If the end of the world isn’t an excuse to pursue a beneficial goal, then having children isn’t either.
So why the Umm Empowered blog?
It must be made clear that there is no watering down of the roles and responsibilities that come with the territory of umm. This is just one job that can’t be outsourced. So I started thinking. How can I use my role as a mother to my advantage to earn me the highest level possible in Jannah, because that’s not a spot reserved for the average!
So I set up ummempowered.com to motivate myself and others like me to aim high and be in a constant state of spiritual and personal development. This is the real pursuit of happiness. It’s time we recognize and tap into the pool of unique talents Allaah created us with, and then run with it, and then do big things! No more mediocrity! We going to leave behind a legacy, because it’s the ordinary Muslims that go to Jannah, but the extraordinary Muslims go to Firdous!
Join me on my journey as we climb the ladder of absolute awesomeness!
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